Funeral? No Funeral?
“Show me the manner in which a nation cares for its dead and I will measure with mathematical exactness the tender mercies of its people, their respect for the laws of the land and their loyalty to high ideals.” – Sir William Gladstone.
We at Oliver’s know the importance the funeral plays in the healing of our grief, and we would like to share with you some facts about the grief process and the funeral ritual, taken from an excerpt written by Dr. Allan Wolfelt, who is often regarded as the top writer and speaker on grief today.
The funeral ceremony helps us acknowledge the reality of the death, gives testimony to the life of the deceased, encourages the expression of grief in a way consistent with the culture’s values, provides support to mourners, allows for the embracing of faith and beliefs about life and death, and offers continuity and hope for the living.
Unfortunately, our mourning-avoiding culture has to a large extent, forgotten these crucial purposes of the meaningful funeral.
Here is how funerals helps meet the six reconciliation needs of mourning:
- Acknowledge the reality of the death.
- Move toward the pain of the loss.
- Remember the person who died.
- Develop a new self-identity.
- Search for meaning.
- Receive ongoing support from others.
Finally, and most simply, funerals serve as the central gathering place for mourners. When we care about someone who died or their family members, our physical presence is our most important show of support for the living. By attending the funeral we let everyone else there know that they are not alone in their grief.
Remember there are many options available to your family to customize a service that is “right for you”. Whether it is a full traditional funeral, or a highly personalized one-of-a kind funeral, or even simply a short, private viewing before a cremation, it can pay huge dividends in the future by the closure and comfort it brings.
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